Some of the major issues in relationships are the assumptions we make about the meanings of our non verbal communication. The Interaction Styles lens can help us see through the assumptions to the intention of the behavior. We often misinterpret what people are intending. It can help if we understand the drivers of each Interaction Style pattern and see beyond our hurt feelings, anger, or disappointments.
Interaction Styles can help us down the road to happy relating when we:
- Know ourselves to recognize where we are coming from.
- Honor the differences in others.
- Welcome the diversity they bring.
Step 1: Recognize the drives and aims of the person you are in relationship with.
Step 2: Ask yourself if you are misinterpreting their behavior and expecting them to have the same drives and aims as you do.
Step 3: Recognize what the situation needs and shift your perspective to what the situation needs.
Here’s to happy relating!